The Serial Cheat – Let them go

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Dump the Serial Cheat

You’ve caught your partner cheating for the seventh time and your still wasting salt water on them; why? Let it go people, that person is a serial cheat and they will not  be changing their ways any time soon. The leopard will definitely not be changing his or her spots, let it go. Dating a serial cheat not only drags you down; but the after effects ricochet onto your relationships you uphold with your family and friends.
Ask yourself, what are you holding out for? Do you think he’ll change? What are you afraid of? Are you scared to move on? Why are you allowing this person to disrespect you? Do you no longer love yourself? Whatever your reason for staying is; the truth is that they are no longer the person you dated from the birth of your relationship.

Time to stop the excuses

But I love them so much. Stop it. Love yourself and move on. “He or she is different around me.” Your partner should be consistent, does it make sense to be a two sided human? Truth of the matter is you’re a walkover and you accept his mediocre behaviour as good boyfriend performance. Stop the excuses. If they promised never to do it again and they reached their third violation, strike him or her out.

What is it your hoping to achieve?

Your staying with him in hope of doing what? Trying to change a leopard who enjoys being a leopard is madness. Wake up; look in the mirror and change yourself, because they are going to continue being a serial cheat whether you like it or not. All you’ll achieve is more heartache.

Good sex obstructs clear thoughts

Its crazy to think that sex can play a role in staying with a serial cheat, but often an individual being is emotional stripped to their bare bones. Their self esteem and confidence in themselves has taken a major hit, but to the outside world they’ll be the strongest person you’ll know. Don’t confuse good sex with a working relationship. Do not keep inviting him or she back because  you’re hip-notised by their hips.

Opportunity Cost

Being in a dead relationship is actually making you miss out on a good future partner and each day you waste with the serial cheat, is another day you’ll lose to be happy. Chances are; your current  relationship has made you pass up a great chance to be with a decent guy who will make you happy y staying with a dead end relationship.

Fear of starting again

Have you ever began a huge project and invested yourself emotionally then been told to start again. It hurts to have to start again because of all the time, energy and love you invested is now garbage. So naturally you are scared to begin again, who wants to think that their time they invested was in a broader sense ‘wasted’. Once you realise that starting again is not that bad you’ll smile as you journey on a new adventure. You are much the wiser, more versed in what to be and not be patient in. Added to that you can learn from your experiences into the next relationship so you don’t encourage or make the same mistakes. Don’t be afraid to start again.

You are part of the problem

Nobody asks to be cheated on but after seven times you are now the problem. Spencer from ‘Made in Chelsea’ said to his ex-girlfriend Louise, “how can I respect you when you let me cheat on you.” Crazy as that sounds if you apply that to a relationship where there has been several instances of cheating, it makes sense. Each time your partner cheats on you; you cry, insult them, forgive and then take them back. Believe they won’t respect you. You are now the problem. You need to change the result. You need to let them go.

Stop Nagging and get decisive

To change a situation one must do more than nag the situation into change. Be decisive, be strong and be active. Actions speak incredibly louder than words. Time to get up and move on.

Conclusion

Its time for change and every moment wasted with a serial cheat is more time your cheated out from being happy. Stop the tears. Stop the heartache and stop the disrespect. Start knowing your worth. Begin your journey of happiness and change your end game so it doesn’t end in sadness. Jojo the gentleman extraordinaire has spoken.

9 responses to “The Serial Cheat – Let them go”

  2. I don’t know if anyone in this world will ever read this comment, but I write it as much as an expression of gratitude to the author, as I am writing a statement, or perhaps a contract with myself, that I will not go back to the serial cheat again. I read this article over and over for the kick in the ass I needed (and still need) to get out and stay out. Thank you.

    • Woooooow thank You very much. Your gratitude is beyond what I expected, I always hope that someone is helped by the wisdom given to me by God. I pray that whatever situation or walk of life you get into you will prosper. Honestly thank You

  3.  IT’S FUNNY HOW WOMEN WHO ARE 80% VICTIMS OF CHEATING WRITE ARTICLES JUSTIFYING WHY PEOPLE CHEAT AND ASKING US TO GO BACK TO OUR CHEATING SPOUSES BUT THE MEN WHO USUALLY CHEAT AND KNOW ALL THE KNITTY GRITTY ALWAYS ASK US TO FLEE THANKS FOR THIS ADVICE I WAS WITH A SERIAL CHEAT FOR 8 YEARS FINALLY FOUND MY STRENGTH TO GET OUT ITS HARD BUT AM HOPEFUL

    • Madam truly i appreciate your time to comment. You know its true the point you are making because truth is those who continually do things to hurt you might still love you but may love the cheating more. Trust is a big thing but once it is broken it is a broken china plate put back together. If it falls again it needs even more superglue than before. After a while you just shouldnt put the plate together because any vibration or pressure will break the plate. You love them but love yourself too. God bless you for replying. Fully appreciate it

  4. My advice is please dont go back to a cheater. The lies they tell are many and what about the lies that are never exposed? Sure its easy to be sorry once caught but the entire time they were cheating they enjoyed the stimulation they received .Dont kid yourself they wouldn’t take you back if you cheated on them. I was once the ow, I know the really story of the phone calls,the secret meetings the running around behind spouses back. Trust me that cheater does a lot of work to keep that affair going. The only reason they go back is because of all the nagging involved. And the cheater is being pampered all the time you think you are working on the relationship. The real truth is they didnt respect you then and they sure wont once you take them back. They have compromised your health and why should you be compelled to save someone who didnt care about you. Do you feel its your job to make them see the error of their ways? Let them go get the drama out Of your life. Once the honeymoon phase is over and your left to resume a marriage that is compromised you probably will regret your decision to stay.

  5. this is so true, happened to me and really feel as the most idiot girl in the world, so many broken promises and lies, at the end he said i can’t be a faithful person, its what i am.. the problem with serial cheater is they always come back even you dumped them several times and they are really good with words..beware ..

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