Dump the Serial Cheat
You’ve caught your partner cheating for the seventh time and your still wasting salt water on them; why? Let it go people, that person is a serial cheat and they will not be changing their ways any time soon. The leopard will definitely not be changing his or her spots, let it go. Dating a serial cheat not only drags you down; but the after effects ricochet onto your relationships you uphold with your family and friends.
Ask yourself, what are you holding out for? Do you think he’ll change? What are you afraid of? Are you scared to move on? Why are you allowing this person to disrespect you? Do you no longer love yourself? Whatever your reason for staying is; the truth is that they are no longer the person you dated from the birth of your relationship.
Time to stop the excuses
But I love them so much. Stop it. Love yourself and move on. “He or she is different around me.” Your partner should be consistent, does it make sense to be a two sided human? Truth of the matter is you’re a walkover and you accept his mediocre behaviour as good boyfriend performance. Stop the excuses. If they promised never to do it again and they reached their third violation, strike him or her out.
What is it your hoping to achieve?
Your staying with him in hope of doing what? Trying to change a leopard who enjoys being a leopard is madness. Wake up; look in the mirror and change yourself, because they are going to continue being a serial cheat whether you like it or not. All you’ll achieve is more heartache.
Good sex obstructs clear thoughts
Its crazy to think that sex can play a role in staying with a serial cheat, but often an individual being is emotional stripped to their bare bones. Their self esteem and confidence in themselves has taken a major hit, but to the outside world they’ll be the strongest person you’ll know. Don’t confuse good sex with a working relationship. Do not keep inviting him or she back because you’re hip-notised by their hips.
Being in a dead relationship is actually making you miss out on a good future partner and each day you waste with the serial cheat, is another day you’ll lose to be happy. Chances are; your current relationship has made you pass up a great chance to be with a decent guy who will make you happy y staying with a dead end relationship.
Fear of starting again
Have you ever began a huge project and invested yourself emotionally then been told to start again. It hurts to have to start again because of all the time, energy and love you invested is now garbage. So naturally you are scared to begin again, who wants to think that their time they invested was in a broader sense ‘wasted’. Once you realise that starting again is not that bad you’ll smile as you journey on a new adventure. You are much the wiser, more versed in what to be and not be patient in. Added to that you can learn from your experiences into the next relationship so you don’t encourage or make the same mistakes. Don’t be afraid to start again.
You are part of the problem
Nobody asks to be cheated on but after seven times you are now the problem. Spencer from ‘Made in Chelsea’ said to his ex-girlfriend Louise, “how can I respect you when you let me cheat on you.” Crazy as that sounds if you apply that to a relationship where there has been several instances of cheating, it makes sense. Each time your partner cheats on you; you cry, insult them, forgive and then take them back. Believe they won’t respect you. You are now the problem. You need to change the result. You need to let them go.
Stop Nagging and get decisive
To change a situation one must do more than nag the situation into change. Be decisive, be strong and be active. Actions speak incredibly louder than words. Time to get up and move on.
Its time for change and every moment wasted with a serial cheat is more time your cheated out from being happy. Stop the tears. Stop the heartache and stop the disrespect. Start knowing your worth. Begin your journey of happiness and change your end game so it doesn’t end in sadness. Jojo the gentleman extraordinaire has spoken.